So here are two people, deeply in love, each one convinced of their belief.The man, not in a macho (edit) way, thinks she should bear his name when they get married. The woman, not in an overly feminist way, is convinced that she should keep her name.
His reasons: tradition
Hers: it doesnt make sense anymore.... .
what do u think?
Saturday, November 04, 2006
Should I Change My last Name?
Posted by Majonzi at 7:56 PM
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the woman shud not change her name so that when divorce time comes the papers are sorted out easily. a marriage these days is not the till death do us part type. one shud be able to pick up easily incase of divorce or separation. that's just my opinion.
^tell u what, when I do get married, isnt my goal till-death-do-us-part? If I thot we were going to end up in divorce/separation then I wouldnt get married... .
Most honestly, it never mattered to me in the first place. I guess mainly bcoz I grew up in a culture where women folk do not drop their last name & adopt the husband's family name.
I still advocate not changing names...unless there's some benefit of some kind (legal,etc)in doing so.
you see there is no guaantee in marriage. weird things happen nowadays. not that people don't have the conviction that it is till-death-do-us-part, something might just happen before death namely irreconcilable differences.
to change ot not to change who cares as long as we are married the rest is details. they should just get married.
I had quite a bit to say and didn't wanna blog on your blog so here goes.... the sands
Don't two people become one when they get married? That is why they share a name. If this is the case, what names will their children bear? His or hers?
Ahhh, what a deep issue!! I had not even thought of the children!! (all 9 and half of them). As a woman, I really want to maintain my name, coz it is my identity. Aww shucks!! the children!! (shakes head in confusion!!)
simple the toiz can chukua their dads name to have a sense of identity of their own and atleast some form of tradition will be left. i too would like to keep my name at the sametime identify with my husband and in that case hyphenation will have to work where by i incoperate both names.
I would probably take my hubby's name because it is easy to return to your maiden name in the event that you get a divorce..it really isn't that complicated, at least here in the U.S. it isn't. If I married a non-Kenyan or non-African I would definitely hyphenate my name.
I am going to keep my name. I do not have to take his name, much as I love him. Our children can have his name.
I don't ever plan to change my name. If I got married, I don't mind being called Mrs. X but any and all of my legal/official documents will bear my names. It should be optional.
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